That fuller than normal schedule still doesn’t seem to be going away.
If you are that special someone who has a tendency to notice a particular behaviour that resembles perfectionism, then busy seasons, are not necessarily your most comfortable times. In my experience these stressful times can be a trigger to push every button that may cause an unwelcomed reaction!
Oh how I have loved perfection.
Yes I admit it. With a deep happy sigh, at times, perfectionism has been a wonderful friend.
A perfectly wonderful marriage. A perfectly happy family. A perfectly suited job. A perfectly designed home. A perfectly cleaned home. A perfectly wrapped gift. A perfectly balanced routine. A perfectly sized body. A perfectly reached goal. The list could go on!
As I invite people into my life ...a husband, a child and then four ...oh and then welcome this beautiful Christmas season with family and friends ...all those perfectly perfected moments tend to get challenged to the gazillienth degree. My home isn’t as spotless, my routine isn’t as balanced and that perfectly sized body, well that really is another blog post!
As I have journeyed through my own life experiences, I have realized that perfectionism is not always a wonderful friend.
It has caused me to respond with an unsupportive ‘all or nothing’ behaviour when going after my goals. Whenever I found something I was passionate about, I jumped in with both feet, full of natural enthusiasm. With high expectations, I was in control and ‘all in'. When I couldn’t sustain the level of perfectionism I had set myself, my initial enthusiasm started to dwindle. I didn’t like the feeling of being out of control which caused me to withdraw and be 'all out’.
If it wasn’t going to be perfectly perfect as I had envisioned, 'why bother?' was an attitude I would adopt, which in turn sabotaged everything my heart was longing to see fulfilled.
Although still comfortable with the notion of perfectionism, it is not a supportive behaviour pattern I want to keep nurturing. I feel it hovering around me, especially during those stressful, beyond my control times and I am much quicker to spot it ahead of time. When I am aware, I feel empowered to know I can choose something else that will truly support me.
My happy empowering place now is that of excellence.
Similar to perfectionism, yet with very different consequences, the essence of this inspiring word and all that it means allows me to flow more with the variables of life. It releases me to wholeheartedly explore a life of wholeness allowing ample room for those uncomfortable and unperfected moments. I love excellence!
For those who can relate to my conversation around perfectionism, may I encourage you to take a moment to explore and discover something you can shift into, that will release you from the grips of the ’all or nothing’ or self sabotaging behaviour. You may not even be aware of how it manifests but more often than not, if you find yourself still going after that same goal with very little progress, there may be a flavour of perfectionism lurking in there somewhere.
QUESTION TIME: What triggers are you aware of during a fuller than normal schedule? How does perfectionism manifest in your life (if at all)? What do you need to help shift you from the grips of the ‘all or nothing’ or self sabotaging behaviour?
Yours now truly inspired from a place of excellence, Jo